The common saying you’ll hear among wedding goers are, “Oh, the cocktail reception start at 7pm? Shall we meet at 7.30pm since weddings always get delayed anyway.” Such phenomenon is not uncommon.
Although not the worse out there, Singaporeans have a lot to improve on in terms of wedding etiquette. From punctuality, to dress code, to behaviour at weddings, there’s actually quite a list of stuff to take note off to become better wedding goers ourselves.
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1. Be Punctual
Unless the wedding is at 7am in the morning, there is absolutely no reason why you should be late. Being late for a wedding is not only disrespecting the couple, but also disrespecting the time of other guests as the banquet cannot start on time. Delaying the wedding will cause it to end late. The couple might incur more cost due to the wedding overrunning.
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2. Please RSVP
Please, please, please RSVP.
The rationale behind RSVP is to let the couple know how many people to expect at the wedding. As the couple is spending money on every head that RSVP to the wedding, be polite and not leave them in a limbo. If you’ve RSVP-ed, try your best to show up as the couple has already paid for your share. When you RSVP, it would be great if you could let the couple know of any dietary restrictions so that they can cater to your needs.
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3. Dress Code and Dressing
A dress code is there for a reason – the couple obviously hopes that their guests would come in a certain outfit or theme. If you’re going for a dinner at a 5-star hotel, dress the part! If you’re attending a themed wedding, make sure you’re decked out according to theme.
For the ladies, refrain from wearing white (unless it’s by request of the bride to do so then go ahead). White should be reserved for the bride! Also, keep your hemline appropriate. You won’t want to steal the limelight from the bride right? So it would be smart to avoid outfits or dresses that are too skimpy or slutty-looking.
For the men, avoid wearing polo tee or any form of t-shirt to weddings. It won’t hurt to dress up once in a while!
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4. Gifts and Red Packets
Cash is king (even in weddings). Weddings are normally a joyous but expensive affair in Singapore. Couples can pay up to $200 for each person they invite to the wedding. To help them cover cost, cash in the form of red packets are often preferred. If you need a gauge of how much to give, this list might be useful
Gifts are another alternative. Although uncommon in Singapore, couples can utilize a gift registry. A gift registry is like the couple’s wish list. Family and friends should first check if the couple has one if you are intending to get them a gift. Places that offer such services are Takashimaya and Double Happiness
Do also remember to write your name(s) on the red packet or gifts so that the couple can thank you personally!
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4. Be Good
We would like to share with you some of the big no no’s that guests should refrain from doing:
- You might get free booze but don’t drink the bar dry! Don’t end up getting drunk and wasted!
- If the bridesmaid or best men request your presence in the main dining area, do follow so that the programme can run as planned.
- Some stuff are better left unsaid – if you’re emceeing or speaking during the wedding, remember to filter your words.
- In the context of a wedding, photobombing is not cool – you might actually spoil a wonderful photo moment for the couple.
- If the couple request that guests do not upload photos onto social media, do respect their requests.
- Gatecrashing stops at gatecrashing. Let the couple enjoy their evening as newly weds!
Last but not the least, don’t be a wedding crasher!
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